To the Weary Mama,
Hi, girlfriend. I see you. Hair a mess, yoga pants on, at one point you were the proud cook of beautiful homemade meals and last night your kids had easy mac and hot dogs – and you never ate dinner. I see you. And I want you to know that you. are. enough.
Sometimes the super connected world can be awesome – we can keep connected with old friends, far away family, heck even our husbands serving the country halfway across the world can FaceTime in with the connections the world has today but lets face it, it ain’t all good.
We get on Pinterest or Facebook and see these hot moms with rocking bodies, hair done, wearing actual clothing, preparing amazing, healthy, home cooked meals 3x a day. Their homes are spotless, kids are angels, they make it to the gym every day, do all the things, and they have it all together… ALL the time. And this makes us *regular moms* feel like a sack of poop.
I’ve got news for you, that’s not real. We’re comparing our real life to their highlight reel and all its doing is making US feel like we aren’t enough.
But you are.
Your kids are fed, your house isn’t really a dump like you think it is, memories are being made. You hug and snuggle your littles and love them with your whole being.
Thats all they need. You and your love… is enough. And that’s all God want’s from you too.
Imagine you painted a picture of your child. Spent hours, days creating this beautiful masterpiece – down to the very last detail. And when it finally dried you stepped back and thought, “This. This is more than enough, this is perfection.” And then your child came into the room and saw the masterpiece and immediately started telling you things you missed, areas the paining was lacking, its imperfections.
You would be crushed.
My dear, this is what you are doing to God, our creator, right now.
He created you and every imperfection you see is perfection to him. Every area you think is lacking is an area He didn’t see a need to fill.
So while you don’t feel enough right now, you are perfection in the eyes of the one who made you.
Even all the hairs of your head have all been counted. So, do not be afraid. You are worth more than many sparrows.” [Matthew 10:30-31]
Lets put this in context because no one likes a cherry pickin’ bible reader.
So, the Word in chunk of bible is referring to having courage under persecution. Jesus is calling these people hearing His word to hear what He is saying and go proclaim it to the world. If you could imagine, this was not an easy feat. He tell them to “not be afraid of those who kill the body, but cannot kill the soul.” [Matthew 10:28]
Ok, so no – you’re going into battle to proclaim the Good news right after Jesus has told you (synopsis) “Hey, I know this, I’m God… they are going to KILL ME FOR THESE TRUTHS”. Its starting to become known to you that you’ll likely be killed too for following this Jesus guy.
But, you are in a battle. A battle against the world and the expectations it has put on your shoulders to be everything and to do it all.
But you are enough, God has chosen you for this battle, this journey, he’s chosen you so specifically that he has even catalogued every stinking hair on your head.
Do you know how many hairs are on your head? I sure as heck don’t. I made my kids and I love the heck out of them but, I have no clue how many hairs are on their head.
But God didn’t call you to be a perfect Pinterest mom. To celebrate all the feast days, holidays, and special days of the year like Martha Stinkin’ Stewart. To look like Heidi Klum every time you leave the house.
He called you to be a follower of Him. He chose you perfectly to be the wife, mother, child, homemaker, and friend that you are.
No one else on this earth is better equipped with the personality, tools, strengths and weaknesses you posses to to be the mother of your children.
No one else on this earth is better equipped to be the wife to your husband.
No one. Because you are more than enough. You are perfection in the eyes of God.
And finally, a prayer for when you don’t feel like you are enough.
Dear Heavenly Father,
When I look at my children, I see perfection in their goodness and their shortcomings. But I fail to do this for myself.
Forgive me for forgetting that you love me in my highs and lows, my perfect moments and my imperfect ones and for failing to offer myself the same graces you offer to me. Graces that you offer because, to you, I am enough. I am perfect in the eyes of the Lord.
Lord, when I feel like I am not good enough – help me to know that even in my shortcomings you are working through me.
Help me to realize my true worth, especially when I begin to pressure myself with unrealistic expectations the world puts on me.
God, I beg you to take away my feelings of insecurity and to find joy in you even in my deep moments of weariness.
Here’s some beautiful bible verses for those day’s you feel weary…