I’ve spent the majority of my mom-life in survival mode. Saying “yes” to way too many things, stretching myself too thin, finding absolutely no time for myself or my relationship with God or my husband and trying to find worth in life by trying to give myself some sort of value by bringing in a measly paycheck. After being far too close to a mental breakdown than I care to admit last winter I stumbled upon the idea from Jami Balmet’s blog, The Young Wife’s Guide, of creating a personal and family priorities list to help you say “yes” to the things that are truly important and “no” to the things you do not need to spend your already precious time doing. This priorities list has warped into a family mission statement that has really helped me focus my energy and attention on the things God has called me to do – be a child of His, a wife, a mother, and a homemaker. And, you know what? I feel more fulfilled, joyful and peaceful now than I ever was trying to sell stuff in direct sales, be a photographer, coach gymnastics, be a perfect Pinterest mom, etc.
Now, if someone told me I *needed* a family mission statement 5 years ago I would have laughed – but little did I know that I needed to set the tone and direction I wanted for my life. Just as a CEO can’t run a business without a mission, a General can’t win a war without a goal, you can’t adequately run your household, raise the kids you want, be the wife you wish to be, or the follower of Jesus you desire to be unless you set that mission ahead of you. Trust me, you need to do this. It doesn’t take long and the impact will be great in lots of aspects of life.
I’m going to walk you through the simple ways you can create your own family mission statement (and give you a FREEBIE to help you creatte your own Family Mission Statement). Start implementing it into your daily decisions to cut out the life clutter that is keeping you from feeling the joy God wants you to feel in the role that He has given you on this earth.
First step to all of this is to create a personal priorities list and also one with your family. (Check out this post on creating your priorities list). The next thing, if your husband cares, is to run it past him. (Mine didn’t, he thought it was a cool idea but he’s not into making printable and framing things like the office supply nerd that I am). Does he think that both of your time should be spent on these things? In this prioritized order? I then looked up bible verses that supported my priorities to remind myself that these things are not my will, but God’s.
Our priorities look like this: and everyone’s WILL and SHOULD be different. We’re all in different seasons of life – but just for an example
1. Always strive to cultivate a strong, deep, and personal relationship with the Lord, my God through prayer and His Holy Church.
2. Intentionally, passionately, actively pursue my husband physically and emotionally as my best friend and soulmate.
3) Pursue Christ-Centered parenting.
4) Cultivate a healthy home and lifestyle for my family that we may be better fit to serve the Lord.
5) Responsibly make use of the blessings and gifts God has given us by being fiscally and materially responsible as well as giving to others in need monetarily as well as by our God given gifts and talents
Next step is to get some pretty paper or cute font on the computer and start writing out what you want your mission statement to say.
For ours I knew we wanted God at the height of our priorities, then our marriage, our children, healthy living, and financial responsibility. Now I just had to make it wordy and then pretty on the computer. Think of back in school when you took your notes and fluffed them into your actual paper. Our priorities list turned into this:
By the power of God’s grace we, the Yarrington Family, strive to always put Christ first in our lives. We wish to cultivating an atmosphere in our home where each member can intentionally and passionately pursue Jesus at the center of their lives with strength, courage, and encouragement within the walls of our home and beyond.
We commit to put God first and foremost and our relationships within our family second by always loving, forgiving, finding joy, enjoying the memories and giving thanks to the Lord for the family and circumstances we have been blessed with. To better serve the Lord and each other we commit to living simple, homemade, healthy, active, toxin free, devoted Catholic lives well as living well within our means and being financially responsible and generous to those in need with our time, energy, resources and finances.
We vow to model Christ within our marriage and as parents by showering each other with selfless love, deep affection, grace, mercy, and forgiveness. We strive to resolve conflict quickly based on what we are called to be in Christ, not our own feelings or emotions.
Told you, its lengthy – but its nice to have handy. Now print that bad boy out and post it on your fridge, laminate it and put it in your purse, read it when you wake up, and give yourself some mission and purpose to the *ordinary* holy hot mess that God has called us to live!
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